Episode 582: Becoming Less Afraid

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Daniel Packard talks about how we can be less afraid in our relationships. If you trace it, all relationship fear at its core is a fear of rejection or being hurt. But if you break it down, fear of rejection doesn’t exist. Rejection technically is someone giving you a “no,” and you relate a meaning to it. It’s not the “no” that’s scary, it’s the meaning we assign to it. And the meaning that’s so scary is the deep fear we all have that we’re not enough to be loved. When you find yourself afraid to be rejected, remind yourself that rejection doesn’t exist, and it’s just you making it mean something about you. And unlike other people’s actions, that’s an emotion you can have control over.

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1) Part of dismantling “not enough to be loved” is you just have to catch it because it’s a lie, and if you spot a lie, it starts to dissolve. So notice when “not enough” is part of your decision making. Here’s how to catch it: When you find yourself afraid of (that thing) ______________, stop and say, “That’s not what I’m afraid of. What I’m afraid of is they’re going to do something, and I’m going to make it mean that I’m not enough to be loved.” Just bringing that deep subconscious fear to the surface will start to dissolve it.

2) When we are afraid of rejection we go into a pattern, and when we’re locked in our pattern we rob ourselves the chance to grow. When you are afraid of being rejected, don’t make your measurement of success the thing going well. Meaning if you’re going for a raise don’t say, “If I get the raise, I did a good job.” Because if you do that your “not enough” wiring will scare you into creating excuses. Instead, create your measurement of success in your process and say, “I don’t care what my boss says. I want to practice being vulnerable.” That way no matter what happens you will be proud of yourself and won’t feel rejected because you did it on your terms. Instead, you’ll feel a dose of love and a little treat to reward yourself for your courage.

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Daniel Packard

  • Trainer of Love Athletes
  • Transformational Entertainer
  • Author
  • Speaker

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